#i fucking love being in the lgbtq+ community!!! we're so cool!!!

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[genderqueerdykes]

i love you so much i love the way u talk abt trans men and our struggles i makes me feel so seen especially bc youre older than me, i want to be understood , keep posting please

THANK YOU !!

i appreciate that. i feel like nobody (aside from some very cool bloggers on here) is advocating for trans men anymore. like unless its a trans man talking about these issues, it just doesn't happen. nobody advocates on our behalf for the most part. everyone just leaves us to the weeds. we have to help each other because most people just don't even understand what trans men and mascs want. like it's absolutely positively insanity inducing

when i was in college, at my pride group, there were just. no conversations about trans men. at all. in fact. at the time i was beginning to realize i was a trans man but i couldn't find support or acknowledgement of transmasculinity anywhere. whenever i would participate in the conferences, and large group meetings for LGBTQ communities in our part of the country... I was forced into queer women's groups. i did not identify as a woman or bigender at that time. i asked them where a female-to-male genderqueer person should go, and they put me in every queer women's group. i was not being considered trans. i was being viewed as a cis butch lesbian.

i was fucking pissed.

i learned the word transgender and what it meant and the example that was given was male to female, which was informative. i heard a lot of things about feminine transition, drag queens, cis gay male culture, bisexuality, pansexuality, and even asexuality. i want you to know that my college's pride group in 2011 - 2012 was more accepting of asexual people than trans men, which is insane for that time frame. i was actually allowed to help with a presentation on asexuality

i had to go online and research trans men, though. there were none to be found in the group that were at least out and able to talk to each other. we were all very stealth and nervous. my long term friends there ended up being gay men, lesbians, and a transfem agender person. i never met a single trans man there. it was heartbreaking.

i am tired of participating in transmasculine silence. i will not participate in self-erasure. trans men are trans. we're men. we're mascs. we NEED support, community, and care. we need to learn how to access transition resources, to comfort each other, to laugh with each other, to help each other find what clothes make us feel like ourselves, to say each other's names and pronouns, to see one's self in the other.

we need people who will protect us from misgendering. we need to be able to talk about our unique issues. we need to be able to talk about how yes, we experience misogyny, but also that transandrophobia is literally a thing. we need people who will stand up for femme trans men and gay trans men. we need people who understand that it's not okay to call every single trans man a confused butch lesbian and assume that they're a queer cis woman. trans men can be butch lesbians and that's okay. but you can't rip away a trans man's manhood for the sake of being a catty asshole. it's misgendering. it's transphobia. care about being transphobic. transphobia hurts all trans people no matter where it's directed. we all lose when you opt to deny trans men and mascs the right to community.

i am transmasculine. i am a trans man. i love being a trans man. i'm not ashamed. i'm not going back in the closet. i love my transmasculine brothers and siblings. i will not silence them. silencing them is a disservice to us all. i refuse to do that to us.

thank you for sending this ask. stay safe, take care of yourself, you're an important part of the LGBTQ community, don't let anyone take that from you.

[jerzwriter]

You are so fucking disgusting Elsa. Using your bland ass straight white bitch MC to be the MC of the Month for Pride Month.

You’ve gone really low

Good morning, Nonny.

I'd like to say hope you're having a good day, but clearly, you're not.

I was 50/50 on putting this in my "delete because Nonny is a bitter troll who doesn't deserve the attention/exposure they desperately crave" file. But this anon goes beyond the usual "I'm a pathetic human who hates someone on the internet who has zero impact on my life so much because of (insert stupid/insane reason here), so I'm going to be a vile bully and send them anonymous hate because - IDK - I can't find a good therapist? I'm off my meds? I'm just a vile piece of shit?" See, I no longer waste my time or energy on those.

But I decided to answer this because a) you're wrong, and b) you're engaging in bi-erasure - something that happens in the fandom and in real life every day, and I'm not going to pass up a chance to educate your ignorance and address your bigotry.

Casey was picked at random - the same way all MCOTMs and WOTMs are. I grappled with the decision to highlight her bisexuality... because of people like you. In the end, I decided to be true to the character. I've been dealing with people like you my entire life - in my personal life - never mind fandom. So let's educate.

Bisexuality is real - people.

Your ignorance in understanding it doesn't make it any less real. I am proudly bi, but trust me, it feels like a pretty shitty thing to be at times. You're never queer enough for many in the queer community, but you're too queer for those who aren't. There is no real safe space outside of a precious few who get it. And I mean few.

Your straight friends talk shit about you "doing this" to be "cool/get attention" or whatever... and they're "relieved" when you're in a hetero-presenting relationship. Your queer friends are happiest when you're with a same-sex partner, and if you're not, they accuse you of lying about who you are or "hiding." It's awesome. You know, instead of just having friends that are fucking happy if you're happy. People CAN BE and ARE attracted to more than one gender and the feelings/love we have toward both are real, valid and do not have to be explained to anyone.

Anyone who follows my MC (and I don't believe Nonny has) knows that Casey has been presented as bisexual from the day I entered this fandom. If some choose to ignore that, that's on them, not me. The fact that she is half of a pairing that is hetero-presenting does not make her any less bisexual. How ignorant are you?

Her profile clearly states she's bi. I've written about her being an activist for LGBTQ rights and about her reluctance about coming out to her parents (because she doesn't believe she should have to "come out," why is straight the default?). I've introduced her ex-girlfriend, Jessica, in fics and text fics, and discussed Casey's identity at length in numerous asks over the years.

So, yes, her current partner is a man, and he ends up being the love of her life. GUESS WHAT! THAT HAPPENS TO BI PEOPLE! And, TRUST, we know the privilege that comes with being in a hetero-presenting relationship. I've never once had someone throw something at me or hurl slurs when I've held a male partner's hand in public, but I've had it happen when my partner is a woman. But no one bi is "suddenly straight" because of it! And asking us to parade as hetero just because we're with an opposite-sex partner is pushing us into a closet - and I'm sorry, but fuck you - because no one belongs there.

Last June, I deliberately avoided all pride-related events in the fandom (NOT in real life). I did so because I was coping with the guilt that is tantamount to being bisexual. The "Should I put it out there. I mean, there are others who are more queer, right? I have no right to do this? Their characters are more important than mine, right?" And yeah, I've felt that way in real life, too. THIS is what it's like being bi. I'm out for decades, I'm comfortable and proud of who I am, I counsel younger people in the community that they are valid - and I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes right now because with all of that, THIS SHIT STILL CREEPS IN - largely because of s-bags like this Nonny.

So you know what, I'm not grappling with it anymore. It's pride month, and in real life, I'm celebrating to the fucking max. And you know what - I'm doing it in the fandom too. Casey is going to be as out and fucking proud as I want her to be, and if it makes your ass uncomfortable, well, that's not my fucking problem.

Re-read your ask, Nonny. The only disgusting person in this exchange is you. Do fucking better.

[ace-was-already-taken]

INTRO POST!!

ABOUT ME!!! (strawpage for more info(?))

Names: Ace, Obsequious, Oliver/Oli (Oli being a nickname that I like for that name :3) + any nicknames idrc (as long as they're not weird)

Pronouns: he/they/it

Art blog: @ace-draws-stuff

PLEASE DO NOT DM ME!!! I am very uncomfortable with it so yea pls don't DM me.

interests:

.> Vocaloid

.> GHOST And Pals

.> Project Sekai

.> COMMUNICATIONS (GHOST And Pals)

.> The Post Traumatic Manifesto (WeevilDoing)

.> Slime Rancher

.> Kandi!!!!!!!! :D

blue = current main hyperfixation

red = current hyperfixation that will NOT leave my brain and I will reblog/post lots of probably XD

Project Sekai Player ID (feel free to friend req lol): 443164046783647750

I have a youtube channel btw :3

and a soundcloud acct :3

Art Requests: OPEN!!!! X3

Just put a request into my ask box and I'll get to it eventually. But rn I'm only accepting requests from mutuals/followers (sorry other ppl) and it has to be a character from a fandom I know OR an OC (bcuz yeah I don't trust myself to draw characters I don't know 99% of the time- sorry :/)

FEEL FREE TO DRAW MY OCS AND SONAS!!!!! ^^ Just credit/tag me in the art pls!!!! :]

Tags (or whatever they're called idfk): #COOL ART ALERT‼️‼️ <- Art reblogs, #my art <- self-explanatory but it's my art :3, #Ace makes pfps and icons!!!! <- self-explanatory AGAIN but its pfps and icons I make :]

I RLLY RLLY LIKE MOTHS BTW PLS TAG ME IN ANY MOTH CONTENT I AND WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER!!!!! /platonic /nf

If I go offline for more than, like, three days or smthng, just assume that I'm either hella busy, or my mom took away all my technology because she found out I'm on this site lol

DNI list:

• Nsfw/kink blogs

Anti-selfship (idk what it's actually called)

Anti-LGBTQ+

• TERF/RadFem/Gender Critical

• Pedo/Map (SUPPORTERS INCLUDED)

• Racist

• Proship/Anti-Anti

• Any Exclusionist

• Ableist

• Anti-Neopronouns / Xenogenders

• Anti-Kin

• BASIC DNI

Other stuff:

This blog is MAINLY Ghost and Pals and vocaloid stuff (maybe occasional pjsk stuff idk)! :)

My ask box IS open... Pls ask me stuff I'm lonely /hj--

I POST RANDOM SHIT IDFK (Also I talk in all caps 85% of the time >:3)

IF U SEND IN AN ASK OR SMTHNG AND I DONT RESPOND FOR A WHILE ITS BCUZ IM OVERTHINKING HOW TO RESPOND IM SORRY ;-;

IM HORRIBLE AT REMEMBERING THINGS 😭

Oh yea I swear/cuss (idk which one is the right word) sometimes btw

If I start typing/talking differently (ex: more/less emoticons, more/less all caps, ect.) it either means I'm just feeling REALLY SILLY (probably a kinshift)!!!!!! or I'm just really eepy/just woke up lmao

I tend to make humor out of my own problems- sooo when I make the occasional vent post (I usually don't tho) and I put 'lmao' and stuff in there, I'm NOT making fun of anything, I'm just brushing off my own problems :3

I apologize. A lot. If I THINK I did something wrong I WILL apologize profusely-

If I say something like "Sorry I'm so stupid XD" or smthng like that, it's not in a pick-me way- Idk how else to explain it?? Idk I make fun of myself all the time tho lol

I HATE DRAMA SO FUCKING MUCH OMG- The amount of times I've actually genuinely cried because of drama not even including me is insaneee- anyway yeah I don't like drama <3

ANYWAY fun fact: My birthday is May 14th :3

yea I think that's all you need to know! :]

Side note: If we're mutuals, expect a LOT of interaction from me :3 /silly

[alexwatchesshows]

Grace & Frankie S1E9 review

Spoilers for up to and including S1E9.

Why can't these people fucking communicate??? I mean, we're getting there but it's baby steps. Frankie is finally taking control over her life, which is good to see, but the way Jacob is just existing in the background shows she has a lot of work to do. Guy is really just an NPC to me. He does very little other than help Grace's character development, but he's pretty good at that to be fair.

For me, the highlight of this episode is Barry. I unironically love Barry so much-- he's so sweet and genuine and even with all we've got so far the way his and Brianna's personalities compliment each other is really cool.

We also get our third queer character in this episode (Adam), which brings me onto a discussion that I want to have about this show: is this a queer show? Now, right out the gate, I do want to say that I love this show, it's one of my comfort shows, and not every piece of media has to do everything all the time. That being said, I don't see this as a queer show. The only queer characters we get throughout are cis gay men (with the exception of 2 lesbians much later). There's a real lack of diversity in anything other than age and it doesn't really do a great job of portraying the LGBTQ+ community in its entirety. Nevertheless, I think the portrayal of older queer characters is also very important, and this show does it pretty well, so there are pros and cons. I might come back to this theme/discussion later in the show, but I thought I'd lay out some ideas here and now.

[dadr0ckmusic]

stranger things headcanons because i said so part 2 (the kids)

max mayfield

only eats green skittles

billy has told her multiple times that she needs to improve her taste in men

tried to get will to be treasurer of the mike wheeler hate club she founded. he said no

"are you ready to fucking rage?" "max we're only going to the dollar store."

she definitely takes those 6-hour, sweaty, bed-lined naps like everyday

makes those jokes like "why'd you turn the lamp on? to look at men? cause you're gay?" to mike

avid girl in red listener. "i thought you'd swing the other way since..." "WHAT THE FUCK BILLY"

"my bisexual bf and i in our straight passing relationship"

doesn't know how to spell courious,,,,, couiours,,,,, the thing george the monkey is

has zero school spirit. i don't blame her i would hate that school too

this girl LOVES hot wings and will murder everyone if they don't order wings when they get pizza

she got drugged REALLY BAD one year on halloween in cali. like girl was in third grade watching the wallpaper melt while being lectured for staying out late

would totally beat your ass if you went thrifting and found something cooler than her

she would totally get into metal/glam rock for approval from eddie and billy. eddie def took her to metallica's fort wayne concert in '86

i know this gal has a wagon full of ice and water balloons and she skates around hawkins and fucking hurls these water balloons at people she knows

dustin henderson

likes mint chocolate chip ice cream

he tried to learn a cool bike trick when he was in 4th grade and ended up breaking his arm and the bike. he never tried it again

his collection of hats is so dear to him you have no clue

takes care of a fake plant and doesn't know it. steve made robin and eddie vow to not tell him. dustin named it kevin

if he likes you enough absolutely NOTHING will get him to change his opinion on you. you killed a man? that's sick as hell. you beat steve's ass at some point? he needed sense knocked into him. you're cool as hell no matter what.

is a literal SLUT for gummi worms

call him 'casanova' or 'hot shot' and he'll be your best friend. his self-esteem would go through the roof

confuses people with facts and logic

total animal lover. he tried to be vegetarian once and gave up after like three days but its the thought that counts

him and eddie have an elaborate handshake (kind of like his and steve's in s3) and its so out of wack sometimes but always ends perfectly

he has a little photo album he hides in his closet and lucas found it one time and STILL gives him shit for it and blackmails him. "remember what i found in your closet dustin? it'd be a shame if someone were to know about it..." "okay FINE here's $20"

he cries wayyy more often than he wants to admit

he would have a crush on any steve-aged girl that ends up in the group. and when he met suzie he told the steve-aged girl that he was sorry he was off the market

he has so much gaydar its actually baffling.

will byers

he's just.... the sweetest kid on the planet

if you're apart of the lgbtq+ community, he'd be so understanding because he's gay (obvi) and he loves you! so much!

i know this mf would've made eddie postpone hellfire to go to lucas's game and watch him make the winning shot

he gets the most bitches in the party despite being gay. i do not make the rules.

he would be on the track team in high school

brings a camera with him EVERYWHERE and documents everything and makes a photo book for each person in the group

always always always worrying about your well-being especially after any upside down madness

him and max are BEST BUDS and it terrifies the party.

he would spend HOURS on a drawing for you and the meaning will make you cry. "it took a little while... but it's worth it because you mean a lot to me :)" tears ensue. "WILL BYERS YOU MEAN THE UNIVERSE TO ME"

talks to eddie for hours upon hours about lord of the rings/the hobbit. HOURS

always rides shotgun. he totally has the widest taste in music and it actually shocks people sometimes

THE. BEST. HUGGER. let me tell you. if you've been through it and he hugs you? the goddamn waterworks. no doubt about it.

makes mixtapes for everyone in the party. mixes in some prog rock for taste to 'widen their musical knowledge'

he's ticklish. but if you tickle him he's beating you to a pulp

sometimes he's SUCH a little shit and gets away with it so often

lucas sinclair

will made him a friendship bracelet and he hasn't removed it in three years.

he has really weird dreams. like when the party all stay at someone's house they always wake him up early and ask him what he dreamed about.

he likes apple juice and is very ashamed of it

if they ever go to a waterpark, lucas is FORCING mike to get on the biggest slides with him just to see him freak out

can't look at a waffle without thinking of el

threatened to sell mike to the commies once and mike didn't speak to him for a week

when max was in lucas's arms after vecna attacked her he remembered the "do you accept the risk" conversation and he broke.

one time during d&d he missed an attack against a dragon and punched the table so hard he fractured his wrist

when he shot billy in the face with the slingshot he was actually so proud of himself that he looked to see if anyone was watching and then he remembered the situation they were in

would listen the SHIT out of frank ocean.

is the opposite of "no homo" this fucker says "full homo bro" and leans in to kiss dustin lmfaooo

just so confused 24/7

him and will are absolute menaces. like they'll be getting yelled at by steve and they make eye contact with each other and fucking lose it

eleven

lesbian el ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

she loooves watching will do anything art-related

just so curious (i know how to spell curious i was joking earlier) about everything! wants to know everything about everything and will spend hours reading library books about a subject

had will braid her hair when it was long

has girls nights with max, nancy, and robin

learned about the concept of death later than normal and she sometimes says "i'm gonna miss you when you die" to someone in the party and it freaks them out

the party taught her how to ride a bike and now she BEGS them to go on bike rides even when its snowing

collects LOADS of funky socks cause she's a funky little lesbian

love love loves writing letters!! when she lived in lenora she sent soooo many letters to everyone, even steve

after the first time max painted her nails, it became her favorite color over time

keeps candy in her pockets ALL THE TIME just in case someone needs cheering up

remembers specific times and dates like when she got to california, when she met robin officially, and when joyce told her to trust her and that she's safe

gets everyone out of trouble at school because all the teachers love her

loves perfume so much. she's always asking max which ones she likes best so she can try them

mike wheeler

him and nancy fought over who got to name holly

i just KNOW this mf uses axe body spray like deodorant and its probably the reason el breaks up with him (besides the fact he's totally in love with will)

prefers coke over pepsi

eddie always compares mike to a spider and calls him skinny and gross and lanky and it sometimes makes mike sad but eddie truly doesn't mean it

scared of ladybugs

fucker hates pickles

he cried when xxxtentacion died when he really never listened to him before he died. mike even made him his lockscreen he was that devoted to being a fake fan

an asshole towards anyone he isn't friends with. even if someone in the party really likes this person he is NOT giving in

this little fucker needs his mommy to cut the crust off his sandwiches cause he's a BABY. he needs his mommy to tuck him into bed cause he's a BABY.

i know this dude's middle name is anthony or some shit

i know s2 mike would beat the FUCK out of s4 mike

his favorite animals are frogs and lizards cause he reminds me of a lizard

[ultimate-marysue]

Oooh, we're airing our Campaign 1 and 2 Hot Takes™???? Because I have a few:

-Whenever Sam's character reveals to not be a two dimensional parody everyone acts like they never saw them as such...but their posts complaining about them being just jokes the week prior are still there. Same for Jester, you just have zero faith in the cast sometimes.

-The fandom baits itself with some queer couples. Like, sure, Shadowgast and Vaxmore had a base. In fact they're both canon (one as an epilogue the other as exs). But the way the fandom took Gilmore (and Essek) and obsessed over them week after week when they weren't even in the shower and then act surprised when Vax moved on is absurd. Sure, to you it was only this morning the last time you read a long meta on Essek's feelings for Caleb, but in game it's been months since they last talked. Stop building your expectations so much and then be mad that the canon differs.

-Tary is underappreciated as fuck. He had a banger of an arc, great story and was super cool LGBTQ rep (a little bit basic, but still great). In fact people always forget him when talking about Critical role's LGBTQ+ characters

-Also, people misgdendering Molly and Kingsley...just why. This fandom likes to be all preachy but at the same time they do this kinda shit. And sure, I'm not going to cancel anyone for a honest mistake. But don't attack the cast for things of the same caliber while denying you've ever done something like that. We all screw up at some point, and if you refuse to admit it, I don't trust you.

-People give Fjord a lot of shit for sleeping with Avantika when he only did it to get some information. While we're at it, I don't like the treatment of that moment in general. Caleb pressuring Fjord into sex with someone his scared of could have been a very interesting conversation on consent, but since Fjord's a dude no one questions that he liked it and done.

-The guests are super lovely and I feel really bad whenever the fandom shits on them for not playing at the same level that the other profesional players at the table. Specially the way people treated Aimee in Exu was wild. She didn't knew the game but still managed to be an excellent roleplayer, not afraid of playing a deeply flawed character as her first (in front of such a massive audience). And people still get mad at her for mechanical details I-

-Fuck all of you being biphobic towards Vax. Not only was he attracted to various NPCs (most notably Gilmore) but he also joked about it in different occasions (most notably, the love potion bit). While we're at it, Scanlan being bi (while part of a joke) was collectively ignored by a big chunk of the fandom, and so was Vex's bisexuality too. Sure, they came out because of jokes, but like so did most of my irl friend group????

-Just, in general the way the fandom treats discourse in general. people act as if every character has to say "hi, I'm Molly, I'm nonbinary and bisexual" for it to be canon. I swear, I will see a post shitting on Vax's bisexuality with thousands of likes and the next one is someone telling a non binary critter to std for saying that it pronouns for J'mon Sa Ord were not the best option. Sometimes you manage to simultaneously speak over LGBTQ+ and POC critters so you can "defend them", while also shutting down their valid constructive criticism.

-While we're at it, criticism. I've seen really cool posts about race, sexuality, gender and feminism from the critter community. This are posts that point out micro aggressions or stereotypes so that the cast can be better. If no one points out something, how the he will you fix it?? They have sensitivity consultants (at least now), but things can always be better.

And then there's that part of the fandom that assumes bad faith from the cast in every single mistake (or perceived mistake). People telling them how they should roleplay their characters and play their game. Bitch, and I mean this disrespectfully, find your own game if you want to play it so bad.

-THE MISOGYNY. Just, wtf. Why do people treat the female cast and the female characters like that?????? The infantilization, the demonization, just the whole deal of judging them differently. I know it is hard to admit that we have this double standard imbedded deep inside us because *society*, but come on. It's just ridiculous and it makes me too upset to even speak about it. I want to make a long post on this someday but, just not today.

-People interpreting things their way (totally valid) and getting mad when the cast had different intentions all along (fuck off). Jesus Christ, just for the love of God and everything Holy, admit you want to play your own game and leave the rest of us alone. Some of you have not played D&D and it shows. It's a roleplaying game in which people do whatever the hell they want. The rest of the annoying crowd is D&D people I would rather die than play with. I don't want to be in a table were people are going to get mad at me when I have different ideas than what they intended.

-Critical Role getting big is not some sort of betrayal. We made them big, now they are big. Easy. If you want to support only the most indie games, go support them and leave us alone.

-Also, stop acting like "being big" means that you can just send hate to the cast. When they answer you always act like they are being super mean because your just a teeny tiny Twitter account and they are famous. Look, if thousands of you keep saying "Keyleth is shit" it's normal that one of you is getting QRT with a "stf" from the cast. They are still people, and you're the one's at Goulet for them not interacting as much ,(which apparently you hate)

-Having said all this, I don't get mad about this shit on a daily basis because I curate my TL to only have people I like and that don't engage on toxic fandom bullshit. If fandom is hindering your enjoyment of the show, use the block button.

[wistfulrat]

this week’s fics! feat. bakeries, bookshops, bisexual awakenings of the angsty and fluffy sort, wolfstar goddads being tender as hell, desi harry reconnecting with his culture, domestic drarry, a lap dance set to akon’s smack that, and more!

But That’s History by @ebbet - 54k - T Harry Potter starts his first year as Muggle Studies Professor only to find that Draco Malfoy has been hired to teach History of Magic.

listen to me. this is one of the funniest drarry fics i've ever read. i was cackling in my bed at 2am because harry’s internal monologues throughout this fic are unhinged. insanely quotable. “what was he, a lothario” and “you were crushing me with your muscular thighs!” are lines that live rent free in my empty head. harry has never played anything cool a day in his life. there’s a faculty meeting where the teachers are planning the yule ball and debating the merits of a DJ when harry decides he must defend his muggle-music-loving honor by dancing seductively to akon’s smack that while a blushing draco loses his mind. i fucking screamed. and the best part is that in between the comedic scenes threading the overall story, you have extremely tender moments of like, padma patil helping harry become a more rooted desi by sharing their cultural traditions, harry proudly donning his sherwani. draco wrestling with his past, going to harry’s lgbtq+ club for students, being sheepish with ron and hermione. ugh, comedic writers with emotional depth are clever and talented as hell!!

Realities, Unfurling by @ebbet - 45k - M Draco Malfoy is released from Azkaban into a changed world.

incredible collage-fic told from multiple povs. 8yrs post-war and everything’s changed. the current state of the magical world unfolds via slice-of-life snapshots from a truly stunning cast. non-binary harry whom is running a non-prof org dedicated to building tolerance and establishing equality for marginalized identities. post-prison-release draco whose life will be changed by the internet. neville’s tender relationship with blaise. andromeda’s fiercely protective mothering. remus and sirius being alive and very hot and just, the tender goddads harry deserved. cho chang being brilliant. baker pansy’s softened edges. found families abound. harry being flustered by their crush on draco and making personalized playlists on an iPod nano.

that all might sound narratively cluttered but the author more than pulls this off. glorious, start to finish.

Knead by @jovialobservationanchor (an @hd-erised​ fic) - 83k - E This is not a story about Harry renovating Grimmauld Place. This is a story about coffee shops and brewpubs, about Ginny and Luna on a farm with creatures, about magical Oregon, coastal road trips, flying, friendship, and Draco Malfoy's lean arms.

cinematic. a love letter to oregon’s expansive landscapes and lively cities. it’s harry finding home in unexpected places and people. in the vast silence of rolling fields, endless coasts, and starry night skies big enough to feel like you’re adrift in space. and it’s also the lingering, intimate quiet of early mornings in a bakery, sitting on a park bench overlooking the city as you eat ice cream next to your crush. it’s harry watching ginny and luna dance and work around each other like bees. it’s the slow unfolding of harry and draco’s relationship as they fill each other’s quiet. finishing this fic is like waking from a good dream. transporting, immersive, lovely. 

Harry Potter and the Bisexual Awakening by @writcraft - 20k - E Harry is perfectly content being single, heterosexual and living in Godric's Hollow with his very clingy rescue dog, Snitch. When Draco Malfoy turns up on Harry's doorstep demanding that Harry teach him how to drive, things quickly become a lot more complicated.

first of all, i feel very seen by draco being a gay-who-can’t-drive. it’s called representation. but mostly i love the ease of harry and draco’s banter, a flustered harry discovering his sexuality, and the way this fic addresses biphobia. also very emo over this exchange: “I think I might be scared of you, but probably not for the reasons you think.” “Yes.” Draco stares at Harry. “I think I might be scared of you too.”

Forged through flowing water by @tedahfromtayla (an @hd-erised​ fic) - 40k - E When Hermione sets up a diplomatic mission to begin repairing the damage British colonisation did to Indian magical communities Harry isn’t going to pass on the opportunity to visit and help his family’s home country. Maybe he should have asked a few more questions about the personnel she had recruited for it before signing on because Malfoy surely has an ulterior motive to be there.

so much to love about this fic. the beautiful settings, from kolkata to mumbai, to the holi festival and colorful lively streets, to remote cave settlements and old intricate temples. it’s harry in the homeland, reconnecting to his family’s heritage and confronting the weight of imperialism in his history. it’s nipping the white savior complex in the bud. this part: That is what England left behind. That is what it still stands for, despite whatever mask of respectability and honour it presents. . .You don't get to step aside and let someone else deal with the mess. You have to listen and learn and then act, Malfoy, you need to learn how to fix your own mess. This is why we're here. my indigenous ass cheered. HP certainly sells the british fantasy but HP fanfic?? fuck jkr, fuck the crown. i love that this fic doesn’t romanticize england’s history. i love that we get to see the vast resilience and beauty of post-colonial india.

Purity Control by yrfrndfrnkly - 28k - T In which Harry tries to ignore his trauma with fantasy Quidditch but Malfoy's Thereness™ is distracting and all his classmates want to talk about are unicorns, virginity, and Muggle music.

tender 8th year fics where they go from bristly as fuck to understanding and soft 100% guaranteed to make me emo as hell. all the teens have traumas and no one wants to talk about it but eventually Things are Talked About. it’s good of the adults to finally notice. everyone just wants someone to hold their hand. and this part: “You’re the only person around here who’s a bigger mess than I am.” “I thought maybe we could be a mess together,” pls don’t look at me as i weep over their gentle empathy.

Advent, a comic by dustmouth - WIP - T It's Harry and Draco's first Christmas together and Draco is determined to live his full yuletide fantasy, come hell or high water.

dustmouth, patron saint of whimsical drarry. whose illustrations singlehandedly reinvented wizarding fashion. whose cheeky and tender comics are like a soothing balm to the utter depravity of this carnal world. harry and draco being domestic, draco’s xmas spirit brand being “traditional unhinged”!! extremely my shit. we’ll absolutely be reading this all december.

Little Spaces by @dracoladon and @lazywonderlvnd​ - WIP - E Draco's back from France and working on the spell damage ward at St Mungo's with Hermione, who invites him over for dinner. Without telling Harry. This is a roleplay, which means Harry is written by one author (lazywonderland) and Draco by another (dracoladon).

the switch in distinct character voices works so well for this fic!! tonally i feel like i'm watching an episode of the office. i personally love harry and draco being Pissed Off at how much they want to bone each other. the battle of the tapenade was the most riveting dinner scene i've read in a minute. clever, hilarious, emotionally tense. can’t wait until that inevitable moment post hate-sex when they’re gonna be like “oh noooo it’s a Heart Boner as well!! >:((” hell ya we’re subscribing for chapter updates.

Dragons Don’t Know Paradise by @teacup-tai​ - WIP - E In 2004, when Remus spends two scary weeks in the ITU due to complications of pneumonia and his HIV condition, Sirius walks around the house like a ghost and Harry finds comfort and strength in Draco through a chat in an online LGBT forum. Harry falls for him, but Draco has a lot of secrets and, before long, will need to come clean—even if he believes that no one is able to understand a dragon.

non-magical bookshop AU. remus and sirius’ relationship is a marvel. the ease of their affection with harry makes me so emo. draco’s friends being insistently present even as he tries to isolate himself. this is a story about acceptance, found families, and falling in love at a distance. the intimacy, the longing, the tenderness. what a fic!! i keep coming back to this part:...he looks at ease, inside his body, a body he needed to fight for. He’d made peace with his struggles and his scars. And Draco realises he wants that. He wants to be at ease inside his body, the body that now carries a virus. He wants to be at peace with his own existence. you hurt for draco so deeply but you get moments like these where he affords himself a kindness that feels foreign and it’s just!! the boys navigating grief and learning to be vulnerable. so good.

[fandombokstav]

so june is over here in norway but i just wanted to vent a bit about how important this year's pride month has been for me

first of all this year marks my "13 years since i came out" anniversary (in september), and since i came out at 13 years old it means that i have been openly gay for half my life now!! how cool is that?! i've actually been told by some people that me being open has made it easier for them to come out too, and honestly there is nothing i want more in life

my parents have been flying the rainbow flag on their veranda the entire month, without me asking them to and without me even being in my childhood home for most of it. and just knowing that makes me so happy i could cry

literally any time i see rainbow flags out "in the wild" i just have the biggest smile on my face. did an outdoor concert in front of a residential building and saw two rainbow flags and couldn't stop smiling the entire time we were there

seeing the masses of straight allies putting up rainbow flags this year has honestly been good for my soul. there have been news reports of apartment buildings having their rainbow flags cut down from their flag poles, and to fight back people literally bought hundreds of flags and every single resident put a flag on their personal balcony. a school had their rainbow flag taken down (repeatedly) and decided to just paint a massive flag on the ground in the school yard

for every news article about a rainbow flag being cut down, stolen or burned, there was another article emphasising that *most* people were in support of the queer community, which was even reflected in facebook comments (which we all know are notorious for being awful)!

also let's talk about schools for a second: so many schools seem to be putting up pride flags and talking with the children about what the flag means. some schools have had their own parades!! we're talking primary schools!! 11 year old me would have LOVED that, and i'm so glad these kids get to learn about lgbtq+ stuff in such a positive way. like obviously this isn't *all* schools, probably not even most of them, but it's a thing that *happens* and that people respond *positively* to, and it just makes me all warm inside

there have also been so many small pride events this year, seemingly every single little town has hosted their own parade somehow (even with limited social contact). there have been tractor parades, boat parades, you name it. one of the events was planned and organised by a group of 13 year olds!! how amazing is that?!

nrk (norwegian national broadcaster) have done SUCH a good job this year showing different aspects of pride. a number of articles and interviews detailing queer history, the issues facing the community now (both in norway and in other countries), the various pride events happening around the country. letting actual queer people speak about these topics

and then the tv programs!!

a lovely interview with kim friele, the most badass lesbian norway has ever seen, who played a major part in norway decriminalising homosexuality in 1972, and who is generally considered a hero in the queer community. also the interviewer was a lesbian too (and my personal celebrity crush lmao) so obviously the whole thing was iconic

the whole fucking pride event thing, which was 100 minutes of non-stop queer content, on nrk1 which is like *the channel* in norway, during *prime time* on a Friday evening. they showed clips from pride events from around the country (including the one i went to!!). they talked to trans people about where we're at with trans rights in norway. they talked to queer people from minority backgrounds about what it's like to face discrimination from multiple sides. they talked about queer history, about why pride is a party and a protest, they showed images from the stonewall riots and emphasised the importance of trans woc in our collective history. they talked about norwegian queer history, including how the aids epidemic affected our country, something i have literally never known about before. they did an interview with two kids who came out at 11 and 12 years old, and once again my 11 year old self would have *loved* this 15 years ago. they showed little clips of both queer celebrities and normal people wishing everyone a happy pride, and they included two of my friends! they finished the show with a performance by big daddy karsten, an openly gay rapper (we don't have a lot of those in norway, let's be honest here) who was on stage dressed in a leather harness and ended his performance with "say yes to kink at pride!"

did i mention that all of that was paid for by the tv licence? literally every single homophobe who owns a tv in norway has paid for that show to be aired 🥰

i also had a really good time going to pride myself this year. spent hours with my group of queer students painting banners and posters for the parade, and even going to get covid-tested together was a fun experience. in the actual parade (which was a boat parade for me!) i got to teach some people what terfs and swerfs are, and why they are NOT welcome. i got to listen to some baby gays talk about how they found out they were queer, which included watching paradise hotel and being on tiktok (not that i can judge since i realised because of gosupermodel lol). i felt a sense of community, something i've been missing for a while

overall, june 2021 has been a good month for me, pride wise, and i sincerely hope that all of my followers get to experience the joy i've felt this pride month. i know i speak from a place of privilege (being white, cis and able-bodied, living in a good country), but seeing how the public perception of lgbtq+ people in norway has changed even just from when i came out 13 years ago, i'm hopeful for the future ❤

[thetiredstuff]

Speaking of old rumors that people read as J2 but could have very easily I found a while back. We're going underground for this, 'cause sensitive stuff, if true. C'mon downstairs with me...

So a while back, I found this blind item: https://href.li/?https://crasstalk.com/2012/04/blind-items-11/

These two costars from a hit network television [show] are both closeted, but very much in love. They have not acted on their feelings, but spend all of their time together. Last week, one star told the other he was willing to risk everything to come out together as a couple. As a result of this confession, the other star has broken off the relationship and refuses to acknowledge or spend any more time with the man he is in love with. Both men are heartbroken.

hi! the way this starts is so hahahahaha creepy hahahaha i can't hahahaha

as for the actual content: well first off i don't know what that blog is but posting shit about someone's life that they'd rather stay quiet whether they're a celebrity or not is just mean and invasive. i'm not just talking about what your text involves but those other two "revelations" in that post.

second: this is especially really fucking shitty when it comes to someone being part of the lgbtq+ community and not being out. this post doesn't name any names but just giving vague details about someone who is queer but isn't out is just really fucking shitty.

third: that post is from apparently 2012. spn literally ran until 2020. i doubt that if that post was about j2 either one of them would have kept signing on because they very clearly still were talking and still were friends until a few years ago when it seemed to cool down

all in all: just don't gossip, or vaguely reference supposedly queer celebs that aren't out yet cuz it's just shitty.

[pengu-hours]

i failed uni my first two semesters because i had really severe depression and anxiety and problems with my medication and couldn't cope with online classes because of my adhd. sigh. i wanted to take a gap year so that didn't happen but my mom kinda tricked me into doing it fresh out of highschool, which is fine and i understand now why she did it (still a little mad, but this makes me the third person in our family to go to college and students who take a gap year tend not to go to college), but i've always known i belong in college and getting a higher education. i know it's what i need and want to do and there's literally nothing else i want to do. i love to learn, i loved my biology class every week, i loved my history class, i just stopped showing up because i got so depressed and anxious. i have a lot of trauma from being class of 2020 and getting my senior year of high school stripped from me, and i definitely was not ready for college. i wanted to come back to classes this spring, but i finally decided i'm gonna take the gap year i need and try to get everything together first. i lost scholarships and stuff because of my gpa drop since i failed quite literally every single class. so, i have to work for the extra money now, which my family can definitely not afford, we're very very broke and can barely keep a roof over our heads. i always kinda knew when i became an adult it would be really rough, but i never expected it to be quite this bad. i am grateful for the connections i did make and the friends i now have from my first two semesters, so it's not like all hope is lost, but it really is difficult. i just suck at classes that i have to do online. i'll probably have to use the printers a lot this time. since i do have adhd though, i get student disability benefits. so, hopefully, with everything, and the fact i'm trying to get autism tests and stuff as well will also be good.

sorry for the really long rant, but here's the good parts i came to love about college:

doing extracurriculars gets you friends, and it's not hard to make those friends. even if you're anxious.

there aren't really as many "cliques" because a lot of us don't really know each other, heh. i have all sorts of friends.

the foreign programs!! there's so many students on campus that are asian or european and it's so fucking cool to meet them and talk to them. one of my best friends i made is korean, and from busan :)

the professors are usually really chill. even the really strict ones tend to soften up. several of mine i kinda attached to immediately because they were in subjects i like and because i was ahead of my level in a lot of those classes since i didn't transfer my high school credits.

the disability services, a lot of them are so so sweet. you can get a lot of benefits and they really do work with you.

lgbtq community! my campus is a safe space and there's so much freedom to just be yourself on campus.

jobs!!! our campus is really good about letting students get jobs and stuff. a lot of the jobs on campus also have basic benefits, like if you're an RA for a dorm, you get your own dorm room (normally for 2 people) all to yourself.

it's overall one of the best places i've ever been. i wasn't bullied for the first time in my life, all my quirks just made me myself and nobody ever got mad at me for them. people would just talk to me regardless of knowing me and then i would recognize them in class and it just made me feel so much safer. my professors loved me, despite all i was going through. i really was a hard worker, but i just couldn't keep up. they never ever held it against me or discriminated against me. being in college felt like... freedom. it really did. walking across campus with kids with all the same goals as you, seeing so many different people. it's so amazing. it gets stressful, yes, but i'll never forget the pure wonder i felt when i stepped into campus for the first time with my student id and went to classes and just felt like "hey, i belong here" and wasn't afraid of getting shoved into things or bullied or made fun of. people were so nice and kind and i just enjoyed every single experience every time. i loved to get coffee and people watch. i studied in the same spot every day and met so many people just from simple things. it's not to say i never had bad days on campus or had bad experiences, because i did, but i really, wholeheartedly, love my college, and i'm so glad that i picked the school i did.

i also dropped out of college but i never said why. instead, i told them i wanted a career change and the lecturers going on strike was a nice cover up for my actual reason; i was failing uni for a second year

uni scares me ngl, i've had so many of my friends drop out bc of the stress and i'm easily stressed :(((( i'd give up easily...